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Today began like most weekend days with a gym workout and rallying my 11 year old daughter out of bed. We spent the early part of the day swimming at the pool with the rest of our community. The air was filled with laughter, splashing and sunshine. When lunch time approached, tension filled the air as the restaurant grill backed up with piles of orders for burgers, fries, salads and other assorted delicacies. After waiting over an hour for food, we pulled the rip cord and chose a new path.

We ended up in the air-conditioned mall on this rare, 90 degree Northern California afternoon. After a quick lunch in the food court, I found myself in a retail store chatting with Sue, a female clerk in her early 60’s. She was promoting the special candle sale of buy one get one free. Truth be told, I am a sucker for scented candles. In our brief encounter, I learned that she had two sons, with one beginning a pre-law program at UC Berkeley (my alma mater). From there, her face grew concerned as she shared her commitment to supporting her son’s education and his pending marriage. From there, I learned that she had been divorced around the same time as I had, and she was still struggling to move forward. I mentioned my recent book and her eyes lit up as if to say, “you must understand my fears. Can you help?” I shared my business card and suggested she call me any time if she needed someone to talk to. I pointed her to my website so she could learn about my book and the Table of Disciplines about moving forward in times of uncertainty. Upon leaving the store with my candle purchase, I held her hand and told her it would get better.

Upon reflection, I realized that it takes just a few moments of connection to recognize that we all share similar fears of loss, of shame and of judgment. Slowing down allows these connections to grow. It is easy to stay in our own private Idaho, but when we step outside, magical connections blossom where you least expect them. Imagine what our world would look like if each of us took the time to stop and really learn about one another. It is easy to get caught up in our own worries and fears and schedules. In opening our ears to truly listen to one another in a heartfelt way, we are likely to find answers to our own questions. We can be guides to each other through our sharing of relatable stories and experiences.

4 Tips for fostering Magic “EARS”

  1. Engage When you meet someone new, slow down and stay awhile without the distraction of technology.
  2. Ask Questions Don’t be afraid to ask a few questions that require more than a Yes or No answer.
  3. Relate Build a bond of commonality. Share and be vulnerable to let the magic unfold
  4. Smile Let the joy and happiness from inside be reflected in your face.

We were blessed with two ears to take in all of the magic around us. May you be blessed with new connections and personal awakenings.

About the Author


As an SVP of a leading technology company, highly sought after leadership mentor, keynote speaker, single parent and bestselling author Amy Van Atta Slater transforms challenges into opportunities. In her debut bestselling book Moments: Magic, Miracles, and Martinis, Amy offers a simple yet profound wisdom. It is through her insights on life, business, personal development, parenting and mindfulness, that she has inspired thousands of business professionals and creative thinkers to adjust, rethink and refocus in every field and walk of life.

After graduating from the University of California at Berkeley, Amy soon became a noted leader in business, and 25 years later, she is consistently inspiring others towards greater levels of success. Motivating the masses with galvanizing speeches, Amy empowers others to build their brands and lead through the cultivation of culture. As a corporate strategy advisor and private executive mentor, Amy cultivates the development of core leadership skills combined with compassion, mindfulness and authenticity. For more information visit: www.AmyVSlater.com


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