It seems to be becoming the norm: Every other day we get up to news of natural disasters, shootings, attacks and similar events that strike terror in the hearts across the world. Out of these dark moments, the beauty of love and togetherness comes forth without fail, as people stand together in support and healing. Total strangers offer physical, mental, emotional, financial and any other support they can, as their caring hearts open to their fellow human beings. Skin colour, social status or creed are completely forgotten in these moments. Only the beauty and immense strength of love, gratitude and compassion exist.
However, the days go by and slowly we return to normalcy, and with it, the hearts slowly close again as the news moves on to other things. The found unity fades, the mighty togetherness created recedes back into its little groups based on social status, creed, skin colour … into the us&them mentality. It seems that we only can or want to stand together in imminent danger. But how imminent does it have to be? How many wounded or dead does it need to awaken our sense of unity?
Life shows us in many ways that we will encounter similar situations again and again until we learn how to deal with the challenge it poses correctly. Some people have to go through several relationships to realise they are attracted to the same kind of partner who gives them no room to live in, before they realise how to move forward. Others need to go through a dozen unfulfilling jobs before they realise what their true calling is. We know that it is high time that we lay our differences aside and stand as one, but we are not living this yet. Is life nudging us in this direction ever stronger, using these seemingly ever closer occurring, heart wrenching disasters across the world to challenge us to take on this habit?
We speak of not forgetting past horrors, many being remembered with yearly memorials, moments of silence, gatherings and similar. But how many of those standing in silence and memory do so with an open heart? Even more so, how many carry this open heart into the world, helping the elderly lady at the next corner to carry her bag to her car?
“We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” (J. K. Rowling)
It seems that disaster strikes easiest where we are divided. There are little to no reports of a second unconnected disaster striking in the same place in the wake of previous one. The unity formed by the first is too strong to allow it. However, when the unity fades in the aftermath, the protection it has offered goes with it, leaving a barely healed wound open for new attack. Anyone who has repeatedly stumped the same toe, bangs the same elbow or similar, will know how the body part becomes more and more sensitive and weakened over time, if nothing is done to prevent further accidents and to strengthen and fully heal the area. The body of humanity is repeatedly stumping the same parts, allowing ever shorter times of healing, weakening it ever more.
“The plain fact is that the planet does not need more successful people. But it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every kind. It needs people who live well in their places. It needs people of moral courage willing to join the fight to make the world habitable and humane. And these qualities have little to do with success as we have defined it.” ( D. Orr)
Being a peacemaker, healer and lover is not a part time job, or only certified to a select few. We all hold these gifts within us, as they flow forth when disaster strikes. Yet it is an art to keep these gifts flowing on a daily basis. Whether you kneel in prayer or meditate, it takes little effort and time to offer your love, healing thoughts and gratitude to everyone in the world. It is actually even easier and more effective to not go around picking out individuals and groups, but to offer these thoughts to everyone, including criminals and terrorist, who need the healing and love just as much as the family grieving for their loved one killed in an attack.
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. (Lao Tzu)
As we pray for or meditate on the healing for humanity we have taken the first step on the journey of manifesting a stronger unity. Yet praying and meditating for peace is not enough, we have to live and embody it, whether or not a disaster happened just around the corner from us. We do not need imminent doom to remind us to help the little boy to reach something on the top shelf in a supermarket. So why is to so hard for us to look out for and support each other in everyday life? Is what is on our smartphone screen that much more important than offering a passer-by a heart warming smile, that could lift their day? Is money, food or a blanket suddenly worth more when there are no recently bereaved to support with a little help?
Let us keep our hearts open and spread our wings to shield each other, even if we seemingly are doing this alone. We can only change ourselves, but in so doing, offer others a glimpse of what is possible. If you, who are reading this, can only help one person, in however small a way, this act can snowball, because not only that person passes the gained support on through their life, but onlookers are inspired, too. Imagine how much more we can change if we do not wait for disaster to strike. In post-catastrophic events our support and compassion enables people to move towards normalcy again … yet in everyday life the same attitude can propel recipients into new and better circumstances and with them humanity as a whole.
About the Author
Hilde Pols combines her music training with her energy work: As a flute and ensemble teacher she developed many techniques to encourage creativity and a sense of the own body, mind and soul. As a Certified Meditation Instructor, Spiritual Healer and Medium, and Dorn/Breuss Therapist she supports individuals to take life into their own hands. “From spirit, through spirit, to spirit” has become her motto, whether she is providing music, healing or inspiration. Providing healing and other modalities at http://inkaleidoskop-engl.weebly.com/ in Germany, she has also taught in Denmark and the US.
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